How To Approach A Woman At The Mall

If you want to know how to approach a woman at the mall, it's actually really easy. In fact, the mall is probably my favorite venue. They're great for meeting girls. First of all, there are four different types of sets at the mall.

•  In the store
•  Seated
•  Walking
•  Working

 Approaching women at the mall is all about timing. So when do you go there? Anytime during the weekends is good. Generally, it's best to go during the week on Wednesdays. Between 5:00 and 7:00 on a Wednesday there are going to be lots of girls.

If you want to meet girls who are working at the mall, the best time is between 11:00 and 1:00. Why? Because that's when they get their lunch breaks. They open the store at about 7:00 or 8:00 in the morning and four hours later they go to lunch by themselves in the food court. Food courts are also great from 12:00 to 2:00 because people who work in the offices come to the mall for a quick bite to eat.

How do you game girls in malls? I know this sounds cheesy, but if you're in a store, it's what works best. Go up to her and say, 'Hey, I'm shopping for a female friend or female relative and I have no idea what to buy her. You have a great sense of style. What do you think I should get?' Corny, I know, but it works.

Another good way to do it is to grab the lamest, tackiest thing in the store and say you think it would look really good on her. This is a great tease and it can sometimes be really funny if done right.

You can also pretend that she works there. This is especially good if she obviously doesn't work there. You can tease her and say something like, 'Hey, can I get that shirt in a large size?' Her first reaction will be to tell you she doesn't work there, but you keep pushing it and eventually you say something like, 'Look, I'd hate to have to get your manager.' Once she realizes you're kidding, she'll be laughing with you.

Now, sometimes you actually have to buy things. Make sure it's at a store where you can return it later. Otherwise, your mall game can get pretty expensive.

The best way to learn how to approach a woman at the mall is to just get out there and do it. It's totally different from picking up girls at a bar or club, but it's a great way to do it once you know how it's done.

Seducing Women

Strength is an essential attribute for seducing women, but it's not the strength you're probably thinking. I'm not talking about physicalstrength but a different kind. Strength comes into play when you're drawing personal boundaries and handling congruence tests.

Congruence tests mean tests to see if you're strong or not. Girls are looking to see certain things – Do you stand up for yourself? Do you let peoplepush you around? Women are always going to test you. It's going to happen and it's a good thing actually. You can totallybase your game around it.

In fact, the whole same night lay game is all about constructing and then passing a series of sexual congruency tests. When I tell a girl I'm trying to get into her pants and she says, 'It's not going to work,' I say, 'We'll see.' When I say this and keep talking, I gain value in her eyes. Basically, if you don't leave or get shaken at all, you gain attraction.

One common test in the field is when a girl says, 'Buy me a drink.' The way to handle this is to be a little bit absurd and then change the subject. For example, tell her, 'Oh yeah, totally. It's waiting for you at the other end of the bar. And while you're there…'

Or say something like, 'Well, I don't buy bitches drinks, but if you make out with me I will.'

What if she says, 'I have a boyfriend?'

Show her that you're indifferent by saying something like, 'Cool, that's great. We can just be friends. But is he going to be mad if I try to have sex with you?'

You can see how all of these examples follow the same pattern. You agree, make it absurd, and then change the subject. It shows that you're strong and indifferent to those things.

The other place where strength is important is in drawing personal boundaries. How do you let people treat you? Do you let them push you around or do you stand up for yourself?

For example, a girl might ask you to hold her drink. Take it from her and then put it on the table. There's no reason to hold her drink when there's a perfectly good table sitting right there.

It's important to demonstrate your strength when you're seducing women because it's something they're attracted to. Remember, I don't mean physical strength. It's more like social or mental strength.